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A ‘Unicorn’s’ Guide to Threesomes: What You Need to Know as a Single Bisexual Woman When Having a Threesome with a Couple

What is a unicorn?

 

bisexual woman in threesomeIf you are a single person looking to have a threesome, it is important to know how to navigate the terrain, particularly if you are a single bisexual woman, as then you are what is often referred to as a ‘unicorn’. ‘Unicorns’ are rare. A ‘unicorn’ is usually a single bisexual woman who is happy to engage in threesomes. Unicorns are looked for by a couple consisting of a man and a bisexual woman wanting a threesome, who together are known as ‘unicorn hunters’. This can be used as a derogatory term and usually used by the single person who is sceptical of the intentions of the so-called ‘unicorn hunters’, or used by people who know that unicorn and want to warn her. This is because often the idea of the threesome with a sexy, young, bisexual woman is only founded in the couple’s fantasy of a sexual experience, almost hunting down the third party as sexual prey, rather than getting to know the third party and work out what she wants and what her fears or concerns might be. Not all couples seeking a third to join their threesome are ‘unicorn hunters’ and not all couples are only interested in the sexual side to their connections with a third. So here is a guide to help you navigate the threesome terrain if you are ever suspect you are being hunted down by some ‘unicorn hunters’! Look out!

 

Are they interested in me for one night only?

 

Only you can decide whether or not you will have this discussion with the couple,whether that be before or after the fact. If it is a planned threesome, perhaps if you have met online, it is advisable to arrange to meet the couple beforehand for a coffee and establish what their expectations are. If you meet the couple on a night out, it is best to assume that they are most likely to just want a sexual encounter and then they may never see you again. Before you enter into your first threesome with a couple, it is important to establish what you will be comfortable with. What attracts you to a threesome? What do you want to get out of it (apart from the orgasms!)? Go with your gut feeling about a couple and if something doesn’t feel right, don’t proceed straight away – give yourself time to consider why it is not sitting well with you.

 

Are they going to wine and dine me or do they just want sex?

 

Your guess is as good as mine. This is why you must find out what the couple would like out of the encounter. If it feels awkward you could ask in a jokey way “So are you going to take me out on a date first to woo me or do you want to just go straight in for the kill?!” This should break the ice but also give you an idea of what you are expecting – whether it is purely a sexual encounter or whether there is an element of romance to it.

 

What if one wants to see me again and the other doesn’t?

 

Ah this is the age-old question and one that usually worries the couple more than the singleton, and perhaps quite rightly. After all, it is their relationship that will take the strain if one of them is very keen and the other is not for whatever reason (it might be jealousy, not you being bad in bed, so chill!) The one area that needs careful consideration is that couples who seek out threesomes often do so with the ill-advised agreement that they will definitely not fall in love with the third. But yes, you’ve guessed it, these things happen. We can’t really control who we fall in love with and if this happens to you, then you will have to consider if you feel anything in return and whether you are happy to proceed knowing this couple might break up as a result of you and one member of the couple acting in a certain way towards each other. Secondly, if couples ever mention that they have such an agreement regarding falling in love with other people, this should be a massive red flag for you. This is because even if you are not interested in anything more than casual sex, it represents a dynamic in the couple’s relationship that treats others external to it as being less worthy than the couple themselves, and also as potentially threatening. This suggests that you could be dealing with a couple with control and/or jealousy issues or a couple who are potentially selfish, so do be careful and trust your gut.

 

How can I make sure my voice is heard when there is only one of me and two of them?

 

unicorn in threesomeThis is harder than it sounds, but try to make sure you are respected and that your viewpoint is taken seriously by being firm and sticking up for yourself.This is why it is always a good idea to have that talk beforehand to make sure you are not getting yourself into a situation that you are uncomfortable with.

Work out what your boundaries are and what any hard or soft limits are for your threesome experience. Hard limits are absolute no-nos. Things that you not only would never want, but that you actively avoid. Make clear what these are from the start. Soft limits are activities that you are willing to participate in but only under certain conditions, for example, penetrative sex but only when a condom is used, or spanking but only with hands and not with any objects. Communicate where the limits lie and if these boundaries are pushed, you are quite within your right to say no and/or stop.

Overall, although it may not feel like it with couples, you have as many rights and you are just as much a third of the set up as each individual in the couple. If those within the couple start to use a couple’s privilege, call them out on it and make sure you stick up for yourself!

Play safe and good luck, unicorns!

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Things You Never Know About Threesome Sex When it Come to Bisexuals

bisexual sexHuman sexuality is full of adventures that aim to make sex more appealing and enjoyable. Have you ever heard of a threesome? Well, for those who have always gone an extra length to research about sex, this is familiar. However, let’s still cover more about this fascinating topic. Threesome is just a love triangle or a three-way romantic relationship involving three people having sex. Threesome is a kind of group sex but only includes three individuals and may occur in private situations where three friends can engage in it or even like-minded swingers.

For a long time, the threesome has been perceived as sex between two men and a woman or two women and a man. Most common cases of threesomes involve men who want to fulfill some sexual fantasies. Women can’t be left behind either. The whole activity of spicing up one’s sex life is the cause of the emergence of threesomes. However, what you might not know is that there are other groups of individuals can practice threesome and make it more exciting. These groups include either three women or three men of a homosexual relationship and even the bisexual ones. Bisexuals are people who are sexually attracted to persons of either sex. Bisexuals too can enjoy threesome sex! Let’s look at different bisexual threesome behaviors and how they enjoy sex.

  1. The woman, bisexual man and a gay man.

The threesome between a woman, bisexual man and a gay man can be more complicated but also more exciting. Both the woman and the gay man will enjoy sex in equal measures as the bisexual man also gets a sexual satisfaction from having sex with both genders. Interesting right?  In this case, the bisexual man will involve in many activities than the rest. The woman will enjoy sex with the bisexual man, and the gay man will also enjoy sex with the bisexual man. Here, one of the partners can do masturbation as the other two are having sex. All of them can also engage in sex the same time. The woman can bend over, and the bisexual man can penetrate from behind while the gay man also penetrates the bisexual man since he would be in a bend over situation. Protection from HIV and STI infections is paramount and therefore if the partners don’t know their status, it would be important for them to use rubber protection. The woman can also give the bisexual man a blowjob while the gay is penetrating the bisexual man. The woman can also choose to lick the bisexual man’s balls when he is on his knees. It can be intense, and thrust and the feeling can send the man over the edge.

  1. A woman and two bisexual men.

This kind of threesome can be more intriguing especially for the bisexual men. The woman will also get pleasure from making out with both men as well as having sex with them. This is an all-round sex since all the partners here will get have sex with the other. In this case, one partner can create a sexual fantasy while the other two are having sex and can be involved in masturbation. The lady can use a sex toy in such a case. The woman can also perform oral sex on one man as the other man penetrates his partner in a doggy style. All partners here can have sex the same time where the woman can be penetrated by one man through doggy style while the other man grasps the man having sex with a woman. The woman can also make out with one man while they are having sex with the other one. In this kind of threesome, double penetration can be applied where the woman can be penetrated by both the men, one anally and the other vaginally.  It’s utterly fascinating.

 

  1. Man, bisexual woman and lesbian woman.

bisexual women threesomeThis is a fascinating type of threesome behavior where the man will have sex with the bisexual woman while the bisexual woman will enjoy sex from both the man and the lesbian woman. As you can see, the bisexual woman will be highly involved in the activities of the threesome. One partner can enjoy watching two other making out and having sex and have a fantasy of a lifetime. The man can penetrate the bisexual woman through doggy style as she is making out with the lesbian woman and even go down on her. Both the women and the man have a chance to have a killer orgasm. The bisexual woman can also be lying down, and the man can perform oral sex on her as the lesbian woman sits on the face of the bisexual woman to get a desirable oral sex. Since two women having sex characterises it, a sex toy can also be used here. The lesbian can penetrate the bisexual woman through bend over while she gives the man a blowjob.

  1. Man and two bisexual women.

In this threesome, all the parties will also enjoy having intercourse with the other. The man will enjoy having sex with both women. Just as other threesomes, one partner can watch others make out or even join the partners having sex and make out with them. The man can get down on one of the women and have oral sex with her when she is lying down as she performs oral sex on the other who is on her face. Oral sex can give a woman multiple orgasms, and as such, both women are guaranteed orgasm. The bisexual women can use a sex toy, and when one lady penetrates the other one, the man would be making out with her. Double penetration can be achieved where one girl with the sex toy penetrates the other woman anally while the man penetrates her virginally. The man can also perform oral sex on one woman while her partner is penetrating her through bend over style. The G-Spot Jiggy is an appropriate technique where while the man is giving it to the woman from behind while the other woman would be on her knees, underneath would be another woman licking the balls and the other woman the same time intensely.