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A ‘Unicorn’s’ Guide to Threesomes: What You Need to Know as a Single Bisexual Woman When Having a Threesome with a Couple

What is a unicorn?

 

bisexual woman in threesomeIf you are a single person looking to have a threesome, it is important to know how to navigate the terrain, particularly if you are a single bisexual woman, as then you are what is often referred to as a ‘unicorn’. ‘Unicorns’ are rare. A ‘unicorn’ is usually a single bisexual woman who is happy to engage in threesomes. Unicorns are looked for by a couple consisting of a man and a bisexual woman wanting a threesome, who together are known as ‘unicorn hunters’. This can be used as a derogatory term and usually used by the single person who is sceptical of the intentions of the so-called ‘unicorn hunters’, or used by people who know that unicorn and want to warn her. This is because often the idea of the threesome with a sexy, young, bisexual woman is only founded in the couple’s fantasy of a sexual experience, almost hunting down the third party as sexual prey, rather than getting to know the third party and work out what she wants and what her fears or concerns might be. Not all couples seeking a third to join their threesome are ‘unicorn hunters’ and not all couples are only interested in the sexual side to their connections with a third. So here is a guide to help you navigate the threesome terrain if you are ever suspect you are being hunted down by some ‘unicorn hunters’! Look out!

 

Are they interested in me for one night only?

 

Only you can decide whether or not you will have this discussion with the couple,whether that be before or after the fact. If it is a planned threesome, perhaps if you have met online, it is advisable to arrange to meet the couple beforehand for a coffee and establish what their expectations are. If you meet the couple on a night out, it is best to assume that they are most likely to just want a sexual encounter and then they may never see you again. Before you enter into your first threesome with a couple, it is important to establish what you will be comfortable with. What attracts you to a threesome? What do you want to get out of it (apart from the orgasms!)? Go with your gut feeling about a couple and if something doesn’t feel right, don’t proceed straight away – give yourself time to consider why it is not sitting well with you.

 

Are they going to wine and dine me or do they just want sex?

 

Your guess is as good as mine. This is why you must find out what the couple would like out of the encounter. If it feels awkward you could ask in a jokey way “So are you going to take me out on a date first to woo me or do you want to just go straight in for the kill?!” This should break the ice but also give you an idea of what you are expecting – whether it is purely a sexual encounter or whether there is an element of romance to it.

 

What if one wants to see me again and the other doesn’t?

 

Ah this is the age-old question and one that usually worries the couple more than the singleton, and perhaps quite rightly. After all, it is their relationship that will take the strain if one of them is very keen and the other is not for whatever reason (it might be jealousy, not you being bad in bed, so chill!) The one area that needs careful consideration is that couples who seek out threesomes often do so with the ill-advised agreement that they will definitely not fall in love with the third. But yes, you’ve guessed it, these things happen. We can’t really control who we fall in love with and if this happens to you, then you will have to consider if you feel anything in return and whether you are happy to proceed knowing this couple might break up as a result of you and one member of the couple acting in a certain way towards each other. Secondly, if couples ever mention that they have such an agreement regarding falling in love with other people, this should be a massive red flag for you. This is because even if you are not interested in anything more than casual sex, it represents a dynamic in the couple’s relationship that treats others external to it as being less worthy than the couple themselves, and also as potentially threatening. This suggests that you could be dealing with a couple with control and/or jealousy issues or a couple who are potentially selfish, so do be careful and trust your gut.

 

How can I make sure my voice is heard when there is only one of me and two of them?

 

unicorn in threesomeThis is harder than it sounds, but try to make sure you are respected and that your viewpoint is taken seriously by being firm and sticking up for yourself.This is why it is always a good idea to have that talk beforehand to make sure you are not getting yourself into a situation that you are uncomfortable with.

Work out what your boundaries are and what any hard or soft limits are for your threesome experience. Hard limits are absolute no-nos. Things that you not only would never want, but that you actively avoid. Make clear what these are from the start. Soft limits are activities that you are willing to participate in but only under certain conditions, for example, penetrative sex but only when a condom is used, or spanking but only with hands and not with any objects. Communicate where the limits lie and if these boundaries are pushed, you are quite within your right to say no and/or stop.

Overall, although it may not feel like it with couples, you have as many rights and you are just as much a third of the set up as each individual in the couple. If those within the couple start to use a couple’s privilege, call them out on it and make sure you stick up for yourself!

Play safe and good luck, unicorns!

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Threesome Dating Online? Scam or Not?

threesome dating: scam or not?The idea might have been in the back of your mind for years, or maybe you and your partner were disclosing fantasies one night over a few drinks, and the mention of a threesome was made. For some, it stays in the realm of fantasy, but for others adding a third person, or becoming that third person yourself, can be a sensual experience beyond anything you have experienced.

Although I can be quite enthusiastic when it comes to promoting the pleasures of a well-suited threesome, I always take a step back and acknowledge that this isn’t something that is for everyone. The fantasy of a threesome is different from the reality, and one should be certain that everyone involved is equally consensual and excited about the experience. Let’s say that you have decided that you are not only interested in the idea of an extra person being involved in your bedroom play, but that you are also ready to put in some effort to find just the right person to add to your mix. The next step is actually finding someone, but how do you go about doing it?

There are plenty of different ways of finding your way into a threesome. It seems that those who are “seasoned” in ménagetrois, know all the right places to look and can spot a new playmate by the twinkle in their eye. But, to the uninitiated, the task can be more daunting. The logical first place to look? Online dating sites and apps.

A simple search for threesome dating sites and apps will produce a list of new platforms, each with enticing promises and user profiles to fuel your fantasy. At this point it is tempting to just jump in and see what happens, however, you may also have heard that many of these sites are scams, so you might be naturally trepidatious. Honestly, I believe you have good reason to use tools of caution, such as checking out a threesome dating site reviews and good old trusty intuition. However, I don’t believe all is lost, you just need to be aware of scams and how to spot them.

Once upon a time, online dating was a platform designed for one on one relationships with a few avenues to explore some kink here and there. More recently, with the explosion of dating app popularity, enterprising companies have built upon the existing platform to build one that includes ample options for exploring different dating and sexual lifestyles. This is great, right? Well, yes, it is, especially since it is estimated that nearly 20% of men and women have enjoyed at least one threesome. When we separate out that statistic by gender, we see that men have played a part in a threesome at more than twice the rate as women. This poses one of the first questions about if finding a threesome online is really all a scam.

One of the main complaints about finding a threesome this way is that while on the surface the user base looks to be a nice mix of male and female profiles, the actual statistics say that men make up the majority of clients on these sites. In other words, many of those gorgeous picks and sultry female profiles are actually nothing more than bots, or profiles copied from other sites. This purpose of this type of scam is to lead you into the site, and get you to pay for membership or for the price of the app. However, once you start actively looking and interacting with other members, you will find that your potential options are actually quite a bit fewer than you thought.

Because I like to play the devil’s advocate from time to time, I am going to say that these sites aren’t really doing this maliciously. Their intent is to build a user base of real profiles that is large enough to satisfy every one of its users, and they simply can’t do that without new members, so they do what they can to lure you in. Many of the newest, popular sites and apps have user bases that max out at one million members. This number might seem huge, but realize that these sites cater to people all over the world. One million people from your general area is one thing, while one million people over the expanse of the whole world is quite the other. The number one “scam” of these types of sites is that they just aren’t big enough, at least not yet.

This can be discouraging, especially if you and your partner are enthusiastic and excited to meet someone that you both click with. You don’t need to give up on your quest just yet, you just need to pursue this new relationship with a little caution and some research. You can join plenty of dating sites for free, but you don’t really get the full experience unless you shell out the money for a full membership. This can be anywhere from a few dollars a month to hundreds of dollars a year, depending on the site you choose. So, how do you go about finding out about these sites, without committing your whole paycheck? You start by finding out what other people are saying.

twp men one woman threesomeTo begin with, look up threesome dating sites reviews. These are sites where real people, just like you and me, signed up and had a real experience, and they want to share it with you, including the steamy details and the things that left them cold. You can also do a search of the site you are interested in and look for individual user reviews as well. Remember to take individual reviews with a grain of salt, unless you see a pattern emerging among multiple users.

The best way to protect yourself from threesome dating site scams is to avoid encountering one in the first place. My personal experience with this has given me the following bits of wisdom regarding the modern-day search for a threesome:

  • Go big. After all, you are seeking out an over the top experience and all the pleasure that goes with it, so why waste your time on a site or app that isn’t going to offer you the most options? Rather than choosing sites and apps aimed specifically at finding a threesome, look instead at sites that have a large user base of members looking for all types of non-traditional relationships. Adultfriendfinder, is just one example of a platform that has been around for years, and has a user base that is millions and millions strong. There are others in the same league that are worth checking out, just look for sites that have a user base of five million plus active members.

 

  • Rather than a threesome site, consider looking at sites that cater to bisexual interests. True, it is in no way an accurate assumption to say that every bisexual is looking to be part of a threesome, but these sites almost always have a more genuine, open minded user base, which is refreshing. Plus, there will always be members there who are either actively looking for, or intrigued, by the idea of a threesome experience. In my opinion, Bicupid is the best and most reliable site around. Check out others, but remember that user base size matters.

 

 

  • Know what you are looking for. Have a good talk with your partner, about what it is you are both looking for in a third person. If you are the third person, be honest with yourself about what you want in a couple. Set out some ground rules, and talk about what you expect from the experience. Know all of this before you even get started and you will be better able to narrow down your search and avoid all the generic enquiries and dead-end correspondences.

 

  • Be Wise. Realize that while finding a threesome partner online takes away some of the uncomfortable awkwardness that can come with finding someone through other avenues, that you are still seeking an experience with an actual person. If you are simply looking for a quick, in-and-out sexual experience, then the platform you use probably won’t matter as much. However, if you want an experience that is unforgettable, sensual and maybe even something that becomes a regular part of your intimate life, take the time to really get to know your potential partners. Treat them the same way that you would if you were looking for a more serious, traditional type relationship. Even if you don’t plan to get serious, the little bit of extra effort will pay off with huge rewards in the experience.

Finally, it is worth repeating, please do your research.

Check out the threesome dating review sites and hear what others have to say. Pay extra attention to those sites and apps that are known to have a large user base of open minded members, from a variety of backgrounds and experience levels. The world of finding a threesome online can be messy, and fake or insincere profiles can be the norm on some sites. Save yourself the hassle of these scams by doing a little research and feeling comfortable and enthusiastic about the sites you ultimately pay to join. Finding a threesome online isn’t all a scam, but it isn’t for the naïve either. Once you find the right site, finding the right person or couple for a threesome becomes easy.

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Top Tips on How to Have a Special Threesome

how to have a threesomeMost men and women have at some point thought about having a threesome. A threesome hookup is a sexual fantasy that is considered to be one of the holy grails of sexual exploration. Though, admittedly, not to everyone’s tastes, a good threesome can make you feel like you are in heaven on earth.

Whether you are single and want a threesome with two strangers, or are looking to have a threesome with your partner, making sure that everything goes just right will make a big difference to how much fun you end up having. Here are some important tips on how to make your special night even more magical.

 

  1. If you know them, you really need to know them well

If you are planning to have a threesome with your wife, partner, or friend then you definitely need to be aware that you are on the potentially dangerous ground. A threesome can throw up some unwanted emotions, such as jealousy, that can really have some serious consequences. If for example, it is two women and one man involved, and the man orgasms in the girl he doesn’t know rather than his partner, this can certainly be enough to cause jealousy to rear its ugly head.

Before you have your threesome, you need to sit and think seriously about how your partner or friend will react. Afterwards, you should both sit down to talk things through. Keep the talk as lighthearted as possible but deal with any fears or concerns you might have. It is also a good idea at this time to talk about what will happen when you are all together and to ask the person if they have any concerns also. An important thing you will encounter is the need for most people to avoid being made to feel like they are the least important one in the threesome. If it is two women and you are the guy, you should definitely make sure that you make the women you know feel really special throughout.

 

  1. Make sure you have the right environment

Making sure you have a good environment in which to have fun could make or break your threesome. It is worth choosing a nice hotel or apartment that has a big comfortable bed in it. Since you won’t just run in and jump straight into bed, the post-threesome environment is also really important. Having a place that all three of you can sit and relax to get into the mood is as important as having a comfortable bed.

You should prepare some nice relaxed music and something to drink too. A nice bottle of wine is a perfect choice, though you should definitely have both a red and white to hand just in case someone doesn’t like one type. Another great tip is not to have a TV on as this will kill the conversation. A much better way to deal with breaking the ice is to make sure you are all sitting facing each other and to dim the lights so that people will feel more comfortable.

 

  1. Relax

If it is your first threesome you are bound to be nervous. It is much better to take more time to relax before you start than drinking too much and getting drunk. After you begin, just relax and go with the flow. Let things find their natural speed and just enjoy yourself.

 

  1. Don’t let a moment of awkwardness ruin the whole thing

It is inevitable that when having sex with one or more strangers together there will be a moment or two when things seem a little unnatural. Given you might have only just met on a threesome website and not had much time to talk, this is completely understandable. The trigger could be something as simple as not being able to get a bra off, accidentally knocking into someone or even trying to do something they don’t want to do. If something like this does occur, it is important to deal with it in a lighthearted way and get back to enjoying yourself. Definitely, don’t make an issue of anything and start arguing, unless you absolutely have to.

 

  1. Use protection

 

This might sound a little like your parents are talking to you, but it is really important. Since the number of people that are having sex with each other is technically double, be sure to make sure the male or males are wearing protection.

 

  1. Make sure everyone feels fully involved.

 

Making sure that your threesome is as much fun for everyone as possible is a good idea. If it is 1 guy and 2 women, the guy should not spend too much time having sex with only one girl, particularly if the other girl is his wife or friend. If the two girls don’t wish to have any physical contact it is up to the guy, in this case, to make sure that they both receive an equal amount of attention. The mathematics of 2 men and 1 women means that the girl can keep both guys satisfied, so in this situation, it is less of a problem.

 

  1. For the guy, don’t be selfish

 

Though there is no doubt that threesomes are exciting, if you are the guy you shouldn’t just jump in, have your fun, then stop the second you have gotten all your pleasure. Try to take it slow and please both women even after you are done. This can be as little as caressing them with your hands,but will really help keep the fun going until it naturally simmers out.

 

  1. For the women, remember you are there to enjoy yourself too

 

threesome practiceIf you are having a threesome where there are two women involved then you should not forget you are there to enjoy yourself too. Though waiting your turn during sex might seem strange and unnatural, you can definitely keep the excitement up by stimulating yourself or someone else. Don’t just lie there getting bored!

 

  1. All leave at the same time

 

For those cases when you are all new to each other and staying in a hotel, it is a good idea that you all say your goodbyes together. This will not only make it easier, but will also prevent the risk of one person assuming favorites. This is a small detail but one that will mean you all leave with only happy memories.

 

  1. If you enjoyed it have another!

 

After it is over, you will have a pretty good idea of whether you like threesomes or not. Even if you didn’t get fully into the swing of things but feel you want to try another, the simple matter is you should. A threesome doesn’t need to be a once in the lifetime thing, instead, it can be a regular and great part of your sex life. So waste no time and get straight back on those threesome dating sites to arrange your next great threesome.

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Threesomes: Honesty, Communication and Boundaries

threesomesWhether you are new to threesomes or have already experienced a few, the key to a fun, trouble-free, and safe threesome is mostly down to three main elements: honesty, communication and boundaries.If you are a couple, it is important to maintain your relationship and make sure your relationship is strong before you enter into a threesome. It is also important to know what you want from the experience and to not get so caught up in any tricky relationship issues that you treat the third in your threesome badly. Here are some tips on how to better navigate these territories.

 

Finding and agreeing boundaries

 

Once you and your partner agree to have a threesome, the first thing you might wish to do is to list, in categories, your boundaries. It is best if you both do this separately (either at the same time in the same space, or completely apart – it is up to you). Each have a piece of paper and divide the paper into three rows. In the first row (the ‘green’ box), list all the things that turn you on about threesomes and why you want to experience them. It can be things you want to see your partner do as well as things you would want to do or have done to you. In the second row (the ‘amber’ box), list all the things you would be happy to do but they would be subject to agreements or discussions (for example, a bit of anal play but no penetration). Try to give as much detail as possible about what the conditions or agreements would be and try not to phrase it in a controlling way (such as ‘you are not allowed to give her oral sex’. A much better way to phrase it would be: ‘I would feel more comfortable if you were to not give her oral sex’). Then, in the final row (the ‘red’ box), write down all of the things you would not be comfortable with at all. Again, if these are about what do you not feel comfortable seeing your partner do, make sure you phrase it in a non-controlling way, such as ‘I would not feel at all comfortable if we had the threesome in our bed. I would need a hotel room’, rather than ‘you cannot have sex with other people in our bed’ or. By avoiding these ‘can’ and ‘cannot’ rules, you are avoiding the language of permission. Your partner is not a ‘thing’ you can control and give permission to; he or she is a human being with real needs and making sure that each other’s, as well as your own,needs are being met should be the main focus of this exercise, not control.

 

Communicating needs: agreements vs rules

 

Once you have both written your lists, you should compare and discuss what your agreements will be for threesomes. Some of these agreements will be fairly fixed and some will be situational (only relevant to very particular kinds of situations) so make sure you are both clear on which are fairly fixed and which can be negotiated. It is better to use the term ‘agreements’ rather than ‘rules’ because rules are imposed on someone, therefore being an exertion of control, whereas agreements are decided upon and negotiated; they are in flux. This concept, again, involves meeting needs rather than having rigid rules that cannot be broken. Once rules are in place and being enforced, either partner may realise that they do not feel comfortable mentioning that they no longer feel able to commit to the rule. Yet, because it is a rule that appears unnegotiable, they feel they absolutely have to comply with it, which creates resentment within the relationship. Or they may simply break the rule and their partner would then feel hurt. By committing to having agreements, instead of rules, you acknowledge that both you and your partner are always changing and you both have the right to change your minds, raise concerns either of you might not have realised were there previously, and you also acknowledge that you both have the right to communicate your own needs.

 

threesome honestyIf you are a couple who regularly intend to engage in group sex, polyamory, swinging, or open relationships of any kind, it is a good idea to have regular check-ins with each other. This could be monthly or even more regularly if you feel the need to. By asking ‘how did you feel when…?’ or ‘what do you feel about the idea of…’ and listening to what your partner needs and thinks, you are showing you care. Repeat back a short summary, such as: ‘Have I understood correctly that you feel….?’ This shows you were listening and if you have misunderstood, it means things are clarified before any misinterpretations can become a danger to your relationship. If you are the one being asked how you feel, try not to speak as if you are accusing your partner. For example, instead of saying ‘when you were having sex with Sandra, you made me jealous and upset’, say ‘seeing you having sex with Sandra brought up some uncomfortable feelings. I felt jealous and upset because…’. Always try to own your own emotions – even if your partner’s actions might have triggered these feelings.

 

Honesty

 

This is also important, but pretty straight forward. Your partner is with you because they care about you. Trust that even if they are uncomfortable with what you are saying, they want to hear your concerns because they care. Be honest with them and communicate your needs, your desires and fears. But, and this is crucial, also be honest with the third person who is entering into a sexual experience with you. As the couple, you have a responsibility to make sure that you are honest and caring towards that person, too. Treat them like they are a person who is experiencing an (albeit fleeting) sexual relationship with you, not a thing, not an object. That person has feelings and has just as much of a right to maintain their boundaries and ask for you to respect their needs as you do. So make sure you consider that a ‘three-way’ is called this for a reason; so that everyone’s needs and desires can be considered, to create the best, most comfortable and pleasurable experience for all three of you.

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Spice Up Your Life with Threesome Hook-ups

threesome hook-upIn case that your relation in the bedroom is getting boring, there are many ways to spice the things up. However, sometimes the toys and sexual dressing will not turn your partner on like he used to. So the time has come that you go for the threesome hook-ups.

You will get many amazing benefits from the threesome. The female-female-male interaction will not only add spice but also provide you a chance to understand that what your partner actually wants from you. Here we have a list of advantages that you will have.

1-Fulfill his biggest fantasy

It is the desire of every man to have more than one bedroom partner. However, when he gets into a relationship he is bound to you and your love. So it is the time that you make his biggest dream come true.

All you have to do is check dating sites for threesome and find the perfect girl for the job. Surprise your partner on his birthday or some other special occasion with the hot gift. The biggest benefit that you will get is that your mate will love, respect and admire you more. He will get the feeling that you care about his requirements and soon he will want you back under the sheets.

2-No cheating

One of the biggest benefits that you will get from the threesome hook-ups is that your partner will never dare to cheat you. The reason behind it is that when they will get everything they want in their bedroom with the permission of their partner then what is the reason to cheat.

The best thing is that they will get the comfort of their partner joining in and so they will get the best of both worlds. So you will also have the peace of mind that you will not have to deal with the heartbreak when you find out that your partner is cheating on you. Everything will be happening in front of your own eyes.

3-Try it once

It is important that we try everything once in life. The reason behind it:

  • With the threesome hook-ups, you will learn many new things about your body
  • It will provide you a chance to experiment with many new things and positions
  • Threesome sites will help you find the perfect match that will bring the sexual attraction back into your life
  • Soon you are your partner will be more sexually attracted that you will find no need for the third person

4-No more Vanilla

Many people have been the fan of vanilla sex but nothing can be compared with the perfectly oriented FFM threesome. It provides you a chance to meet new people and learn new things about sex from them. Apart from that when you will try the newly learned moves and techniques with your wife it will turn everything on. You will once again have the best time in your bedroom. It will allow you to take your bedroom skills to the next level.

5-Build trust

Using the dating sites for threesome will help you to enhance your trust. When you will bring the new women in the room, it would be an option for your mate to select what he wants from life. It means that you really trust your mate that he will never leave you. Apart from that, you can also set some of the ground rules as if your mate is not allowed to kiss the other women if you are not comfortable with it.

Once you are done with the threesome you will find it easier to trust your mate. So it will also remove the complication and the issues that both of you had. It would be a new beginning of a healthier relation with a strong bond.

6-Variety

Three months, three genitals with six hands of privates offer an unending exhibit of mixes. Particular mixes rely on upon the private parts included and the limits of every specific trio. Many individuals have particular mixes that they find particularly exciting.

7-The Good things

threesome sexThere is a greater degree something worth being thankful for. If you are in love with the breasts of a lady? Then threesome will provide you with 4 at the same time. On the other hand, if you are in love with the muscular body, you can use the dating sites to find the perfect match. It is the time that you are surrounded by the male aroma. Many individuals adore multiplying their pleasure with products of a body part they are especially attached to.

8-Riveting

Including someone else is bolting. In the event that engaging in sexual relations with one heavenly darling is an affirmation of your attractive quality and erotic nature, being sexually attached with two individuals can make you feel like a sex god or goddess. It can be exceptionally exciting to turn on not by one but rather two sweethearts.

9-Lover anew

Threesome hook-ups give you the chance to see your beau with another person, and this urges you to make a stride back and witness your mate with new eyes. Many will see their sweetheart with all new gratefulness and increase craving. While not an answer for a relationship that has gone stale, threesome can reinvigorate an effective yet self-satisfied relationship and restore your affection for each other.

So make sure that you select the best partner for threesome hook-ups. It is important that you set some important limits because sometimes this freedom might destroy your relationship. There is no need to compete with the third person because your partner will always remain with you.

Make sure that you use the threesome dating sites in the right way so that you can find an authentic match. Stay away from the dating platforms that are fake or ask you for money to meet their evil plans. Get ready for the threesome for a healthier relation.

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Threesomes: Do All Guys Want a Real Practice?

do you want a threesome?       My friends and I threw a huge end of the year party. We had fireworks during and after the countdown. Champagne bottles were everywhere as well as the caps popping through the window. We were living the time of our lives. We had loud music after 12 am, weed, alcohol, and chips everywhere. After calming down from an all day party adventure, we have decided to settle down on the couch and bean bag, and engage in a philosophical conversation. We dwell on the topics of hookups and threesomes. My friend Michael has claimed that he had often fantasized about engaging in an erotic threesome. Fortunately, he was given that opportunity couple hours ago.  Two girls had snuck into my party half drunk and high, and had offer themselves to him, but he had happily declined. I was shock by his response, it was his fantasy,so why did he deny them?

Guys fantasize about a threesome all the time. They would imagine all sorts of creative sexual positions that they can perform and take advantage. Unfortunately, actual, real sex is different from fantasy sex. In a threesome, the guy would have to have extraordinary stamina, and be able to maneuver and pleasure two girls in a quick and skillful manner. For example, if he were to penetrate one girl and give her an orgasm, he has to switch position and pleasure the other girl and give her pleasure as well. He would have to ensure that he does not ejaculate too early or else the party is over. In reality, this would be very difficult to perform, and no guy would want to be a disappointment in front of two pretty ladies. In addition, If the guy is not in shape and does not have superman stamina, they will less likely want a threesome. I know for sure that the average guy is no superman.

In the fantasy world, threesomes are amazing because the girls are fighting for the man’s attention. In reality, the guy has to make sure that both girls get his attention equally. Michael’s fear is that one girl will be mad and jealous because he was paying too much attention to the other girl. He was also scare that during sex, he will spend too much time concentrating on his performance and pleasing both girls that he would lose his erection. He will then end up disappointing both girls. All of this contemplating back and forth can ruin the dynamics of sex. In the fantasy world, threesomes are mindless, meaningless, and non-judgemental, but in reality, it’s the complete opposite.

Whenever, a girl gets penetrated, hormones and endorphins are fluctuating like crazy. She will most likely fall in love and want to be intimate and close. In the fantasy world, two girls can have sex and leave without any regrets. In reality, two girls having sex with a guy can lead to uncomfortable feelings that can linger. It can get uncomfortable for the guy as well. It could also get awkward and  can be very difficult to shake off. Some people may claim that if three parties are mature, they can just have fun and leave the emotional side tuck away. Unfortunately, it’s not that easy. Sex can stimulate intimacy, closeness, desire, and love. It can cause regrets and harm to one and another. Even if both sides are mature, it can still subconsciously cause a deep scar. If the threesome is performed more than once, the situation can get worse, and eventually the relationship between three people would go down the drain.

People often say that guys don’t fall in love easily after sex. Sometimes the unexplainable can happen where a guy does fall for one of the girls during a threesome. This can be tough because the girl in the threesome may not reciprocate that love. It will be hard to return the love to a guy who had also have sex with another girl in front of her, It be like total betrayal. This could be very difficult for the guy who has fallen for the girl. We have often consider a threesome to lack emotional attachment, but in reality this is not true. When there is penetration, there is always some emotional attachment. Even with prostitutes who get paid for their services, have to deal with these emotions professionally.  These emotions can linger on subconsciously.

guys go for threesomesA threesome is a great experience to try once or twice, but not something to do constantly. We have to consider the increase chance of getting an STD. People would debate that a condoms can protect you from an STD, but during a threesome, the friction is twice as fast and hard. This can cause accidental breakage of the condom exposing the individual to an STD. The guy would have to be prudent, but the extra precaution is added stress to the activity which can destroy the fun out of it. This is completely different from the fantasy world, where STDs do not exist.

After pondering about the reality of a hook up, kinky threesome, it does make sense why Michael would shy away from them despite his constant fantasy. It doesn’t just happen to Michael, but other guys do feel the same pressure to perform combine with lingering emotions. Plus, guys prefer the one on one connection with a girl. They like that true intimacy with one person. When they have sex with one person, the stamina and pressure to perform is lower than a threesome. If intimacy and closeness does form, it can develop more smoothly than it would have in a threesome. In the fantasy world, a threesome is a dream to come true. It can build up the guy’s reputation and make them feel more dominant and accomplish. However, in real life a threesome can be very difficult to maintain, awkward, and stressful.

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Rules Every Couple Should Have For Enjoying a Great Threesome

I want a threesome!Very many couples decide to try a threesome hookup in order to bring novelty into their intimate life and chase away the quotidian routine they have to face. It is only natural to feel attracted by another person even if you are in a serious relationship, so how can you make the step towards enjoying a threesome without making the other feel uncomfortable or jeopardize your relationship? You see, threesome dating can be harmless and may even improve your relationship, with the condition that none of the partners within a couple will end feeling pushed to the side or will feel being throw away from his or her circle of comfort. If you want to experiment new sexual opportunities, but you want to make sure that your relationship won’t suffer when bringing a third person into the bedroom, here are some rules that will help you stay within the boundaries.

  1. Have fun with your guest and partner as well

The idea of a successful and exciting threesome dating is that every participant should be actively involved in the action. You can’t just play along with the guest and leave your partner aside, because that will definitely create some issues between the two of you. So, in a threesome, it is a must to play with the guest and with your partner as well, so that he or she won’t feel as a bystander. A threesome is not fun just to watch it, so each person should have a role and the chance to enjoy during this experience. For this, you will have to be open enough to discuss the details of your threesome hookup before anything happens, including the third person as well. Everything has to be put on the table so that everyone will be comfortable and certain that none will be left aside.

  1. No penetration with someone else except your partner

This is a rule very many couples adopt when wishing to enjoy a threesome, because it keeps any unwanted situations out of the question. But you will have to agree on this aspect before anything starts, to be sure that none of you will exceed this limit and make the other partner feel uncomfortable. Talk with your partner how far will you be willing to go when it comes to the interactions of each with the third person. Also, communicating during the threesome hookup, asking your partner if it is alright to touch the guest in certain way or kiss the guest in a certain spot, will make sure that none of you will cross the line and make the other unhappy.

  1. All the rules of a threesome must be discussed in person

If you agreed to go for a threesome and found the right person to join you in the bedroom as well, you should all meet over drinks and discuss all the aspects connected to your future threesome. Even if it may sound awkward to actually plan a threesome, it is way much better to discuss every details connected to it, like using condoms, finger condoms, gloves, and other protection details, positions, what you like and don’t like, each of the persons involved getting chance to express his or her opinions and preferences, to avoid any unpleasant surprises. This will ensure comfort for every person involved in the threesome.

  1. Everyone involved deserves to have an orgasm and everyone will participate at it

People opt for a threesome because they want to have a good time and expand their sexual endeavors. Thus, it is only normal for each threesome participant to enjoy an orgasm, and this also includes the third person and not just the components of the couple. So, each of you will have to be actively involved in this intimate act and make sure that the other participants are also having a great time. Make sure to take all the precautions method to stay safe and protected, so that in the end you will have only pleasant memories to enjoy.

  1. Go for penetration and kissing with the third person if you are the voyeur-type

MMF ThreesomeAlthough this is something not very many couples agree with, you may accept for your partner to have sex with the third person involved and even with kissing, if that turns you on. Voyeurs are those people that find themselves aroused and turned on by seeing other people being involved in an intimate act. But, of course, these things have to be discussed before they happen. You have to feel okay with the thought that your partner will have sex with another person in front of you. Just never forget about protection, which means that a man will have to change his condom if he is going to penetrate two women.

  1. No one leaves the bedroom

Many couples do not agree with alone time between the guest and their partner. This means that the party starts in the bedroom and ends in the bedroom, with everybody present. The idea of threesome dating is for couples to have an outstanding intimate experience, which they can share with their partner on the spot. They should have a fun time together, playing and experimenting, which makes it important for both the partners to be in the same room, not leaving the bedroom in order to go play on their own.

  1. Set health related rules and a safety word

It is never enough to keep mentioning just how important safety is during threesome dating. Because most partners for threesomes are found on threesome dating sites, couples barely know anything about their guest. Thus, it is mandatory to use condoms and gloves, if you are going to use your fingers for penetration, and take every precaution method possible to avoid contacting unwanted viruses and bacteria. The condom should be changed each time a man changes his partner and sex toys should be disinfected or used for one single person alone. Also, don’t forget to set a safe word just in case any of you crosses the line between comfortable and uncomfortable for anything that may happen in the bedroom while playing.

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Threesome News: the Ménage a Troi is on the Rise

Ménage a TroiThe ménage a troi or, as it is commonly known, the threesome is when three different people agree to enjoy intimate experiences together. How the threesome unrolls and how it is composed, concerning the number of women and men, it is entirely up to its participants. The main idea is for the ones involved to have a great time together, to be safe at all times, and, of course, to be sexually attracted to each other, at a certain degree. The threesome dating is also a great way for couples to diversify their shared experiences, as long as they agree upon this aspect and set rules that will keep them in the safe zone, and for singles to add more exciting experiences to their existence.

If you never tried a threesome before and you are not accustomed with the threesome dating scene, you are probably not aware just how frequent people choose this type of intimate connection to escape their quotidian routine. In fact, a study showed that threesome hookups are on the rise. Young adults and adults, with ages between 18 and 39 years old, living in various cities around the world, were interviewed to see their opinion about a threesome. More than 5000 people were involved in this study and the results showed that one out of five adults, or approximately 20% of the people interviewed, being both men and women, admitted to have already experienced a threesome. If you are wondering if this number is big, the answer is yes, a surprisingly high number of people decided to be more open minded when it came to their intimate adventures and try something else. This is even more surprising if we think about the conservative conceptions that existed a few decades ago, concerning the intimate relations between men and women.

If we are to look at statistics that were put together 10 years ago, only 14% of the interviewed women and men admitted to have experienced a threesome. Six years later, the situation hasn’t improved when the same survey took place, researchers finding out that only 10% of the interviewees decided to enjoy a threesome. So, not just too long ago, threesome hookups were still considered a taboo by many people, something immoral adopted by people with easy virtues. But, apparently, today’s generation sees nothing wrong in wanting to exploit more options when it comes to having a good time in the bedroom. Of course, the numbers are far from being precise, because many people may still not admit getting involved or appreciating threesomes. There is an obvious rise in the number of people that decide to try it, and this is a fact, but we are still far away from being totally open minded about this particular intimate preference.

The threesome is indeed part of the sexual fantasies of many people, as women most often fantasize about sexual encounters in which they are dominated, while men fantasize about enjoying group sex or dominating another partner. Still, many studies will find some of the information provided by the interviewees as bad data. This means that even if the subjects are in the background of a scientific study, they will still avoid telling the truth, if they consider the threesome as being a fetishistic behavior or inconceivable in a civilized society. So, if they don’t want to admit it for a scientific survey, it is easy to understand that they will be even more reluctant at sharing details from their private life in any other circumstances.

two men with a woman threesomeStill, what caused the significant increase in today’s threesome hookups and the bigger number of people that admitted to have tried it? Well, we are talking about media, of course, in all its forms. Whether we are talking about magazines and famous publications, TV shows, and even books, they all promote the threesome as a way to avoid infidelity within a couple, to revitalize a relationship that was affected by routine, or to spice up your private life. No matter how you put it, the formerly-blamed threesome is now seen almost like a cure for a boring and unfulfilling life. Well, the main thing is that what the media is doing works and that people started to accept it and admit it. They are not ashamed anymore of stating that they enjoyed threesome dating, regardless if they were a couple or a single person in pursuit of more exciting experiences.

We cannot ignore either the increasing number of threesome dating sites, which are the online meeting place of anyone that is in search for that ideal third partner or couple to complete a threesome. The online environment definitely had a significant impact on this particular aspect of people’s intimate lives, because it provided people a way to meet others interested in a threesome in a private, comfortable, and convenient environment. People didn’t have to go out and go through the rather awkward process of meeting someone and trying to find out if they were interested in a threesome, because with threesome dating sites it is obvious that everyone that joined in is there for a purpose. And that purpose is to find a partner or partners for a threesome.

Whether we are becoming more and more honest with ourselves and with whom we are or we just became more tolerant and indulgent when it comes to our intimate fantasies, it is not known for sure. What is known is that threesome hookups will continue to rise, an aspect shown by the increasing number of adults that admitted to have tried such a hookup and the staggering number of people that become members on online threesome dating sites. It is entirely your choice if you want to join the constantly growing threesome community, because you know best what works in your life. If you are involved in a long-term relationship or marriage, do make sure to have a serious conversation with your partner on this subject, because a threesome is not always the solution you need to rejuvenate your relationship. But if it is, make sure that all the participants will end up enjoying themselves and having a good time.

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Things You Never Know About Threesome Sex When it Come to Bisexuals

bisexual sexHuman sexuality is full of adventures that aim to make sex more appealing and enjoyable. Have you ever heard of a threesome? Well, for those who have always gone an extra length to research about sex, this is familiar. However, let’s still cover more about this fascinating topic. Threesome is just a love triangle or a three-way romantic relationship involving three people having sex. Threesome is a kind of group sex but only includes three individuals and may occur in private situations where three friends can engage in it or even like-minded swingers.

For a long time, the threesome has been perceived as sex between two men and a woman or two women and a man. Most common cases of threesomes involve men who want to fulfill some sexual fantasies. Women can’t be left behind either. The whole activity of spicing up one’s sex life is the cause of the emergence of threesomes. However, what you might not know is that there are other groups of individuals can practice threesome and make it more exciting. These groups include either three women or three men of a homosexual relationship and even the bisexual ones. Bisexuals are people who are sexually attracted to persons of either sex. Bisexuals too can enjoy threesome sex! Let’s look at different bisexual threesome behaviors and how they enjoy sex.

  1. The woman, bisexual man and a gay man.

The threesome between a woman, bisexual man and a gay man can be more complicated but also more exciting. Both the woman and the gay man will enjoy sex in equal measures as the bisexual man also gets a sexual satisfaction from having sex with both genders. Interesting right?  In this case, the bisexual man will involve in many activities than the rest. The woman will enjoy sex with the bisexual man, and the gay man will also enjoy sex with the bisexual man. Here, one of the partners can do masturbation as the other two are having sex. All of them can also engage in sex the same time. The woman can bend over, and the bisexual man can penetrate from behind while the gay man also penetrates the bisexual man since he would be in a bend over situation. Protection from HIV and STI infections is paramount and therefore if the partners don’t know their status, it would be important for them to use rubber protection. The woman can also give the bisexual man a blowjob while the gay is penetrating the bisexual man. The woman can also choose to lick the bisexual man’s balls when he is on his knees. It can be intense, and thrust and the feeling can send the man over the edge.

  1. A woman and two bisexual men.

This kind of threesome can be more intriguing especially for the bisexual men. The woman will also get pleasure from making out with both men as well as having sex with them. This is an all-round sex since all the partners here will get have sex with the other. In this case, one partner can create a sexual fantasy while the other two are having sex and can be involved in masturbation. The lady can use a sex toy in such a case. The woman can also perform oral sex on one man as the other man penetrates his partner in a doggy style. All partners here can have sex the same time where the woman can be penetrated by one man through doggy style while the other man grasps the man having sex with a woman. The woman can also make out with one man while they are having sex with the other one. In this kind of threesome, double penetration can be applied where the woman can be penetrated by both the men, one anally and the other vaginally.  It’s utterly fascinating.

 

  1. Man, bisexual woman and lesbian woman.

bisexual women threesomeThis is a fascinating type of threesome behavior where the man will have sex with the bisexual woman while the bisexual woman will enjoy sex from both the man and the lesbian woman. As you can see, the bisexual woman will be highly involved in the activities of the threesome. One partner can enjoy watching two other making out and having sex and have a fantasy of a lifetime. The man can penetrate the bisexual woman through doggy style as she is making out with the lesbian woman and even go down on her. Both the women and the man have a chance to have a killer orgasm. The bisexual woman can also be lying down, and the man can perform oral sex on her as the lesbian woman sits on the face of the bisexual woman to get a desirable oral sex. Since two women having sex characterises it, a sex toy can also be used here. The lesbian can penetrate the bisexual woman through bend over while she gives the man a blowjob.

  1. Man and two bisexual women.

In this threesome, all the parties will also enjoy having intercourse with the other. The man will enjoy having sex with both women. Just as other threesomes, one partner can watch others make out or even join the partners having sex and make out with them. The man can get down on one of the women and have oral sex with her when she is lying down as she performs oral sex on the other who is on her face. Oral sex can give a woman multiple orgasms, and as such, both women are guaranteed orgasm. The bisexual women can use a sex toy, and when one lady penetrates the other one, the man would be making out with her. Double penetration can be achieved where one girl with the sex toy penetrates the other woman anally while the man penetrates her virginally. The man can also perform oral sex on one woman while her partner is penetrating her through bend over style. The G-Spot Jiggy is an appropriate technique where while the man is giving it to the woman from behind while the other woman would be on her knees, underneath would be another woman licking the balls and the other woman the same time intensely.

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Why You Should Not Seek Threesome Dating on Free Websites?

free is scamToday you have plenty of options when it comes to finding partners for threesome hookup. However, recent studies suggest that those sites that offer paid services have a lot more to offer in comparison with free casual sex sites. Many people still believe that paid threesome dating sites are expensive and should not be used because there are many free sites out there. However, free does not necessarily mean better, so have that in mind when you search for threesome hookup online.

There are some free casual sex sites that claim that free services are better because there are more matches and bigger base of active website users. It is true that there are still many people that do not want to pay in order to use websites, but those in favor of paid threesome dating sites point out that people who use paid sites are taking the services much more seriously in order to get maximum value on their investment.

There are a couple of paid variations of threesome dating sites. If there is paid a subscription to a site that is normally free, then you pay extra for additional services and features. If you pay a fee in order to use the website, then the payment is to be part of the casual sex community. There are several benefits from the first variation. Those include bigger capacity for messages, knowing the time when your messages are being read, possibility to see the profile ratings, looking at other profiles, and other benefits. This is great for those people that want to be certain that their messages are getting read and those that want to increase their chances of getting a response.

The second variant where you pay a monthly fee to use the threesome hookup website is a very good option because you are paying to become a part of an elite group of people who are serious about their sexual intentions to arrange threesomes. Those sites are much better than free hookup sites because people are more serious and you can be sure that you are not talking with a fake user. Free sites tend to attract people who just want to entertain themselves and that often pose as someone else. Those women who use paid services of threesome dating sites can eliminate a large group of disturbing or weird people which are commonly seen on free sites. Men who use paid sites can also benefit more from these types of websites because they can increase their chances to meet women with similar sexual interests.

Another good reason why you should not seek threesome hookup on free adult sites is because paid sites have smaller pools of people interested in specific fetishes, and you can easily filter people based on their place of living or something else. In any case, you are definitely boosting your odds to quickly meet up with someone.

Although there are hundreds, even thousands, free casual sex sites, these sites are still not winning against paid threesome websites. This is because the free sites often offer limited features with which you cannot do much or hope for a quick hookup. On the other side, paid dating sites have bigger success in providing you with good matches and they are better for quick threesome hookup.

woman threesome with two menThere are many reasons why paid dating sites are better than free hookup sites. First of all, the biggest benefit and one of the main reasons to use paid sites is because there are more serious people interested in threesome hookup. When people pay for something, then they expect to get something in return. The chances of hooking up with someone are much bigger in comparison with free sites. When you get a message or an email from someone that uses paid services then you can be sure they are serious people interested in real meetings. They are more willing to go out, meet, and have casual sex. On free casual sex sites, you do not know what are you dealing with and whether the other couple or person are real or not. You never know whether they are serious or just having fun.

Another reason why free hookup sites should be avoided is because there is a lot of spam on those sites. Anybody can open a free account and communicate with others within seconds, which means there are many people who just use the free services to spam other women, men, or couples just because they can. On paid casual dating sites, you can quickly report the spammer and the customer support will react and not allow spammers to bother other people. After spammers get removed from the site, they cannot ever come back, while on free sites they can quickly create another account and spam again. Spammers on free casual sex sites are a big problem which lowers down people`s chances in finding serious partners for threesome.

The value you get by joining paid threesome dating sites is incomparable with that at free sites. Many people that are new to online hookups often avoid using free services because more often than not those services prove to be very inferior in comparison to paid services. The chances of meeting someone for real is much bigger at paid sites. The success rate at paid threesome sites is much bigger in comparison with the rate at free dating sites.

Paying for a website means that people are more committed to finding someone with similar interests and sex fetishes. So if your top priority is to hook up with someone genuinely interested in threesome dating, then paid websites is the way to go. Not only you will avoid spammers, fake profiles, and other problems associated with free sites, but you will also receive more quality customer support and increase chances for meeting with real people. Explore the reviews of some paid threesome dating sites and pick the best one for your needs.